This year I have been really struggling with my depression in these last months leading up to the holidays. Halloween and Thankgiving were things to get through – as much as I love our family and traditions. It hit a breaking point about two weeks ago and I’ve gotten some professional help for myself. I’m doing better – it always scares me to say that because I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. I need to remember to enjoy the good days and focus on every one that I have.
This Christmas season isn’t the sparkly, perfectly planned one that I envisioned. That’s OK. I want to share a few thoughts for anyone else struggling – because you aren’t alone.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF – don’t beat yourself up! Sometimes getting your teeth brushed is the biggest challenge you can take on today and that’s ok! Sometimes NOT doing something is the best way to take care of yourself. That’s OK too! Any kindness you can manage to give yourself – is worth it and a spark will grow. You and I are worthy.
IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT – Not all of our Christmas decorations got up this year. I couldn’t find the joy it usually gives me. My husband got some things out and we have out tree up. It’s OK to have a good enough Christmas – whatever that looks like for you. Do what you can manage and don’t compare your efforts to others.
ASK FOR HELP – you’ll be surprised! Sometimes the people who love and care about us don’t know how much we are truly struggling. Let people show how much they care about you. My husband making a meal in the crockpot last night raised my spirits so much! Let people in and see if it helps.
Christmas is CRAZY. There are all of these expectations and preconceived ideas of what it should be. Have the Christmas that makes sense in your life.